Am I in an unhealthy relationship?

My name is Gugu* and I just celebrated my 16th birthday with friends from school. My 25-year old boyfriend loves me so much that he spoils me with gifts and takes me to expensive restaurants. But he got very angry after my party because I was friendly with the girls and boys from school. He said I was ‘cheap’ and hit me so hard that my mouth bled. He was so sorry afterwards he said he didn’t know what came over him and was afraid that he would lose me. He apologised, bought me airtime and a new pair of jeans.

If 'love' hurts then it is not love at all, no matter what the reason for causing you pain. Stopping you from spending time with friends, being asked to ‘show your love by having sex’ and made to feel that hurting you is somehow your fault, are definite signs that you are in an unhealthy relationship. Remember that causing physical pain is hurting someone but name-calling, being sworn at, ignored and your partner refusing to wear a condom is hurtful too!

Love can be shown in so many ways that do not involve sex or money. Hugs, kissing and cuddling, holding hands, talking about the future are just a few ways...

A healthy relationship is one filled with love, kindness and respect. Respect for your partner and for yourself; so don’t accept being hurt or forced to do anything that you are not comfortable with.

So what do you think? Is Gugu* in an unhealthy relationship?

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B-Wise User Anonymous 21 April 2019 08:38

She is in an unhealthy relationship

B-Wise User Slender-Baep 17 April 2019 14:29

No she's not in a healthy relationship.

B-Wise User MissDingila 17 April 2019 11:34

Yess Gugu is in an unhealthy relationship

B-Wise User Nanah 12 April 2019 15:40

Gugu must leave that boyfriend because he beat her just because she was celebrating birthday with her friends. Don't be bribe my gift airtime think about your life. One he will kill you

B-Wise User Anonymous 26 December 2018 14:42

Oooh indeed

B-Wise User Anonymous 21 12 December 2018 22:21

Unhealthy relationship....