Anal sex: Your questions answered

Like any other way of having sex, anal sex (or butt sex) can be pleasurable or painful, depending on the situation. And like any other kind of sex, as long as anal sex is between people who can legally consent, there is nothing wrong or bad about it… just make sure you use a condom every time you have sex.

What is anal sex?

Anal sex happens when there is any contact (touching) of your anus by someone’s mouth (oral), finger or penis, or with a sex toy.

It shouldn’t ever hurt when you have sex – so if it does, you should stop.

Ways to make it more pleasurable and safe:

- Make sure you use enough lubrication. And make sure it is a water-based lubricant, so you don’t break the condom. Oil-based lube can cause condoms to break.

- Go slowly. Use a finger or a small sex toy to get the anus ready for a penis or a bigger sex toy. This will also help you relax, which is great because being tense could cause you to have pain.

Why do people like anal sex?

A woman can have stronger orgasms during anal sex, usually when someone is also touching her vulva (part of the vagina) or clitoris. Men can have orgasms from anal sex, as their prostate (a small sensitive gland in the anus) gets touched.

What are the downsides of anal sex?

Anal sex can tear or scratch your anus, because the skin there is thin. This can make you more likely to get infections like STIs (including HIV), as well as other kinds of infections afterwards.

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B-Wise User Anonymous 31 August 2019 18:38

What makes a guy reach orgasm in a short period of time? How can that person be treated?

B-Wise Expert Expert 1 September 2019 16:57

Hi there, how we feel inside is often connected to early ejaculation; especially if you feeling nervous, under pressure or stressed out. You can try to stop early ejaculation by distracting yourself with non-sexual thoughts or wearing thicker condoms. But don't use more than one condom at a time, because that will make the condom break. It's best to talk with your partner about how you are feeling but if you don't feel comfortable then talk to a doctor, nurse or counsellor.