Competition time: #TellYourStory

Many men in South Africa don’t want to get tested for HIV! Not only that, they fear going for general health check-ups. What can we do to help our brothers?

Some men like to say “when it rains I don’t use an umbrella, so why should I use protection when I have sex?” The sad reality is, one of the most common ways HIV and STIs are passed on is by having sex without a condom, yet ama’gents still don’t want to wear protection – but why?

In not more than 200 words, #TellYourStory and win by answering one of the questions below and stand a chance to win your share of R250 in airtime and be published on Your story might inspire an HIV-free generation.

1.       When last did you get tested? How was it for you? Tell us your story.

2.       Why do you think it’s important to get tested regularly?

3.       Why do you think men are afraid of getting tested? Do you know your status?

4.       Have you ever tested for an STI? How would you know if you had an STI?

To submit your story, click on 'Submit a YOUR WORDS article here' at the top of this page. We'll contact you to let you know if you're a lucky winner.

Do you want to get tested for HIV and STIs, but don’t know where your local clinic is? You can find your local clinic and rate the service you receive by clicking here.

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B-Wise User Anonymous 8 June 2020 22:23

1.I was last tested on the 16th of March 2020. I wasn't scared at all because I already know my status. I just wanted to be sure 2.It's important to test ruguraly because sometimes you can touch someones blood while u had a bruise.Of cz u will get infected if u touch that blood and go touch your scar without gloves. 3.Maybe they r scared to test positive. N what they r doing is so wrong cz they can raise the number of ppl living with HIV because they will be infecting others. I do know my status 4.No I haven't because I'm not having sex

B-Wise Expert Expert 9 June 2020 12:12

Thank you so much for participating!

B-Wise User Liyakhanya 30 March 2020 21:56

1.I was never tested because I have never had sex before 2.Because you might not know you are HIV positive and you might pass it on to others 3.Men are afraid of getting tested because they are nervous they might test positive and no girls would want to have sex with them I'm so glad I'm fine and I know my status that I am negative because I am not ready for sex 4.I have never tested for STI by seeing the simntoms

B-Wise User Anonymous 22 March 2020 14:10

Please answer whether I won,I told something personal plz let me win

B-Wise Expert Expert 23 March 2020 13:52


Unfortunately, we are not running any competition at the moment, keep checking the site 

B-Wise User Anonymous 20 March 2020 21:09

I am a girl from a broken home because my mom is not with us anymore,so I don't generally talk out but my friend told me it will heal if I just,this is how it happened,my mom had a boyfriend in which she really cared about and I did as I saw him as a fatherly figure,so yah,it was frustrating to know when they were about to bring another life into the world it could not happen ,because he did not disclose his stutus with my mom,if only he did my mom would have been saved and so much more we could have done all that we wanted by now,if he just spoke to us,I thought if I told this story then many people will see how important it is if u just tell people from the start and what a relief it would be to u,this is how my mom died when so much could have been prevented and someone helped I trust my voice will be heard in this comment by so many who needed this talk ,thank u for listening and if u have it don't be ashamed to disclose the information to people and for all you now,it could be a lefe u are saving ,#talkdontbeashamed,lovedoeswhatitsaysandacts#talkthetruth....

B-Wise Expert Expert 23 March 2020 13:44

Thank you for sharing your story, we do hope you find healing 

B-Wise User Hopewell Disane 21 November 2019 18:47

I am a 16 year old high school student, & I care about my health. I got tested for HIV this past week after 2 years of being tested & the results came back negative. I feel like having to know your status is a weight off your shoulders because you worry about the outcome whenever someone mentions something about getting tested. The first time I got tested was when I went for a circumcision 2 years ago. I was really scared because I didn't know my status, but got relieved afterwards when it came out negative. It is important to test regularly because from what I've learnt the virus can sometimes not be caught on the first test. So it is important to make sure that you get tested for HIV after every 6 weeks to keep track of your status. Men are afraid of getting tested partially because they think being HIV+ takes away their manhood or that it changes the way they are. Being HIV+ doesn't turn you into a villian, it's mostly important for a man to be HIV tested & equally the same for women as well. I know my status, & I'm happy with it & I would advise that every male gets tested to be able to protect others. I have tested for an STI, & I would know if I have an STI, because I've decided to make it a habit to get tested after every 6 weeks. It gives me peace of mind.

B-Wise User Mologadi Monoge 12 March 2019 09:40

I'm a 21 year old native from the Limpopo province caring a lot about my health,thou I don't like engaging myself in sexual activities that doesn't stop me from wanting to know my status,I got texted few weeks back and the experience was nice like all the other days,I was referred to a HIV counsellor who spoke to me with a spirit of integrity. "When you feel good,you do good"so knowing your status increases your confidence as you'll be detailed about your well-being,this applies to all man kind because men(especially those who are circumcised) believe that they can't get HIV.Male circumcision does not provide total protection from HIV/STI,use condoms each time you have sex. Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,get tested today.Know your status #iknowmystatus

B-Wise User NicholasVilane 1 June 2018 14:06

I'm only 21 years old from Richards bay. Honestly I have never tested before. No because I see no importance in it. But because I have never done anything that could make me question my status. im assumed that my parents weren't infected when they had me because otherwise I'd obviously be at risk of mother to child infection. I think it's very inportant to regularly go for check ups at the clinic or hospital especially if you're a sexually active person. By doing this you are not only looking out for yourself but for your partner as well because knowing your HIV status means you will be a responsible adult who will start practising safe sex to avoid spreading the infection. Men fear getting tested because it makes them feel vulnerable. The thought of taking pills for along time is what frightens a man from getting checkups and the thought of having to depend on pills to live will make a man not even think about going the clinic. Honestly I haven't tested for an STI before. Same reason I feel I'd know. If something is not right with my body. Every person could know if they had an STI because we all know our bodies. If you experience pains on your private parts,that could be the first signs of an STI. And if your body reacts strangely while doing sex that also could mean something is not right, could be an STI. I advise everyone to make friends with clinics and hospitals and go for checkups now and then. Safe sex is important.

B-Wise User Nnanalicios 22 28 May 2018 12:56

My last test was last month at Nellmapius Clinic and my status is negative, every time I do my test I feel proud and free because knowing my status is important and i want to keep it that way, I was inspired by my mom because she is HIV positive she didn't hide from she told me everything and she always come to me whenever she needs support and i go with her for check ups and i always remind her when it's time to take her medication. Now my mom has accepted that she is HIV positive , she found out in 2009 that she was HIV positive and i went with her to the clinic in 2010 and i have been supporting her since then and we live happily ever after. Men they don't think it is important, my ex boyfriend used to say if I know my status it means it's the same as mine but currently my partner is more supportive and we go together for testing because we believe that it's important and you feel proud knowing your status.

B-Wise Expert Expert 28 May 2018 17:56

Well done for submitting your story. 

B-Wise User Anonymous 23 May 2018 11:04

Hi, I'm a 23 year old and I'm HIV positive, I have a baby that has just turned 1 and was tested negative at 6 weeks old. I have only been breastfeeding him and now want to stop because of the biting during the feeding, I'm scared he might get infected hence the biting leave cuts on my nipples, my question is what type of milk can I introduce him to because at the clinic they said I must not give him baby baby formula, please help

B-Wise Expert Expert 28 May 2018 09:23

Hi Anonymous. Breast milk is usually the best milk for your baby but considering the circumstances it's best you stop breast feeding as it may put your baby at risk. You can go back to your nearest clinic so they can give you further options. Babies need plenty of nutritional support so your doctor or nurse can advise on other best options for your baby so you can have a healthy baby. Make sure you keep taking your ARVs all through and the rest of your life.