Dating when you’re HIV-positive

Dating is always complicated…but it can be hard in different ways if you’re HIV-positive. You might be afraid that a potential partner may reject you because of your HIV status. There’s nothing you can do to change your status, but there are still many ways to date and have relationships.

First, it’s not easy, but it helps to be honest with your partner about your status from the beginning. This will give your partner a chance to decide for themselves how they feel about it, and they can make sure they take the steps they need to protect themselves. If you don’t tell them before you start having sex, they could feel betrayed, or feel that you put them at risk. Always ask your partner about their status early on too – its best to be open about HIV in any relationship.

Make sure that you have knowledge about HIV, so that you can answer any questions they have. This also shows that you’re serious about your health. Check B-Wise’s HIV section for information.

There is still stigma around HIV, and people and communities have many different ideas about it. This means some people may reject you (because of your HIV status, not because of who you are!). This can be a very difficult part of being HIV-positive. But that doesn’t mean you should give up – there are also people out there who will accept you.

When you do find a partner who is good to you, remember to always use a condom when having sex, even if you are taking antiretroviral treatment (ART). Better still, encourage your partner to take an HIV test too!

Never allow a partner to treat you badly just because you are HIV-positive. They are not doing you a favour by being with you. YOU ARE HUMAN and YOU DESERVE LOVE.

For more on dating and relationships, check out the “Your Peeps” section on B-Wise.

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B-Wise User Miss M 13 April 2020 09:45

Hi I have a boyfriend and he's HIV+ and I'm HIV- we want to have a baby so what can we do?

B-Wise Expert Expert 14 April 2020 17:57

Hi Miss M,

It is very important that you go to the clinic or doctor so they can examine you both and guide you on the right thing to do. Your partner's viral load also needs to be checked.

B-Wise User Anonymous 11 April 2020 18:09

Hy i want to know that a chronic patient is at a higher risk of getting Corona virus??

B-Wise Expert Expert 14 April 2020 15:30

Hi there,

Yes a patient with a chronic disease is at a higher risk of getting the corona virus because their immune system is compromised. The patient must make sure they take their medication properly and stay at home so they can be safe.

B-Wise User Anonymous 8 September 2017 17:21

Hi so its means can i have a boyfreind and have sex pleassure

B-Wise Expert Expert 10 September 2017 11:50

Hi Anonymous. Yes! Everyone has a right to have relationships and enjoy sex. If you are HIV positive it's just important to be honest with your partner so that you can both stay safe. There are a lot of ways to have pleasurable sex while using condoms, and there are many ways to have fun without having sex as well.