Feeling down during the holidays?

Holidays are a time when many people expect to be happy and celebrate. But what if all this free time, family and festivity leaves you feeling sad, worried or angry? Family problems, bad memories, missing someone you’ve lost, or loneliness could make you feel that way.

First, it’s important that you know: you’re allowed to feel WHATEVER you’re feeling. We can’t always choose how we feel, and sometimes sad feelings come to us even if we don’t want them to. If you expect to feel really happy but you don’t, that can be painful…so rather just expect yourself to be YOU, whatever that is on the day.

Here are some tips to help you feel better when you are feeling down:

  • Talk to someone you trust about what’s bothering you.
  • If you’d rather be alone, let people know that you’re having a tough time and you need a little time out.
  • Don’t compare yourself to others – remember, social media doesn’t always tell the whole story.
  • Do something kind for yourself, like giving yourself a gift or doing something you’ve  wanted  to do for a while.
  • Do something kind for someone else. Lots of people need help or love this time of year. 

If you find you are always sad and you can’t get happy about anything, click here to read about depression, and get help if you need it. 

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B-Wise User Anonymous 21 May 2020 21:30

I'm alone in mi life No one n im really looking for someone whom I can call mi bestie so wat can i Do?

B-Wise Expert Expert 22 May 2020 10:44


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B-Wise User Anonymous 19 April 2020 13:38

I'm all alone in my life no friends no nothing What should i do

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2020 11:47

Hi there,

Loneliness is not easy. Please reach out to someone on the contact details in this link: https://bwisehealth.com/article/help-support-mental-health-substance-abuse

B-Wise User Anonymous 5 April 2020 17:50

Don't be y must have fun and injoy yourself,but not too much

B-Wise Expert Expert 8 April 2020 16:27


Yes fun is important and definitely not too much.

Great advice.

B-Wise User Anonymous 2 April 2020 20:38

What if I'm under selfitolation

B-Wise Expert Expert 7 April 2020 13:45

Hi There, 

You can call any of the tollfree lines and talk to someone https://bwisehealth.com/article/help-support-mental-health-substance-abuse

B-Wise User Invisible123 2 April 2020 20:38

What if I'm under selfitolation

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