Feeling down during the holidays?

Holidays are a time when many people expect to be happy and celebrate. But what if all this free time, family and festivity leaves you feeling sad, worried or angry? Family problems, bad memories, missing someone you’ve lost, or loneliness could make you feel that way.

First, it’s important that you know: you’re allowed to feel WHATEVER you’re feeling. We can’t always choose how we feel, and sometimes sad feelings come to us even if we don’t want them to. If you expect to feel really happy but you don’t, that can be painful…so rather just expect yourself to be YOU, whatever that is on the day.

Here are some tips to help you feel better when you are feeling down:

  • Talk to someone you trust about what’s bothering you.
  • If you’d rather be alone, let people know that you’re having a tough time and you need a little time out.
  • Don’t compare yourself to others – remember, social media doesn’t always tell the whole story.
  • Do something kind for yourself, like giving yourself a gift or doing something you’ve  wanted  to do for a while.
  • Do something kind for someone else. Lots of people need help or love this time of year. 

If you find you are always sad and you can’t get happy about anything, click here to read about depression, and get help if you need it. 


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B-Wise User Anonymous 8 August 2020 21:45

My friend has a crush on a boy that boy and her are very good friends. She always thinks about him. She always thinks the worst is gonna happen. What must she do

B-Wise Expert Expert 11 August 2020 12:27

Hello,

Your friend needs to have a conversation with that boy to what they both want and if they both like each other. It's better to be honest  



B-Wise User Anonymous 28 June 2020 21:21

Hi my friend is confused boys are fighting for her so she likes them all what should she do?

B-Wise Expert Expert 29 June 2020 15:42

Hello,

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B-Wise User *betsie 28 June 2020 15:29

I have a bf he is 18 and i am 14 well almost we fight about stupid stuff and i am getting very upset with him so when i feel upset i go in the field and relax but it does not work what must i do?

B-Wise Expert Expert 28 June 2020 16:43

Hello,

Use the contact information below to talk to a counselor who can give you advice:

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B-Wise User Anonymous 25 June 2020 12:21

My cousin likes to hurt me and his brother always beat me but i like visit them i only like her mom she is lonely but when m home m alone at home and my mom is always shouting at me what can i do

B-Wise Expert Expert 25 June 2020 16:52

Hi there,

You need to talk to an adult you trust about this. It is not right.

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B-Wise User Babykay 24 June 2020 19:27

Hi...my parents don't want me to go outside Nd chill with my friends they think I go chill with boys instead what should I do

B-Wise Expert Expert 25 June 2020 08:49

Hi,

Use the contact information below to talk to a counselor who can give you advice:

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B-Wise User Dludlathando 15 June 2020 20:01

Hi, I am always alone in my life and sometimes I feel like kill my self because no one understand me . After losing my brother I was alone in my life and I don't know what to do about it.

B-Wise Expert Expert 17 June 2020 11:15

Hello there,

Use the contact information below to talk to a counselor who can give you advice:

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B-Wise User Anonymous 14 June 2020 00:27

Hi.are there any phycologist who work for the public free of charge?

B-Wise Expert Expert 14 June 2020 16:16

Hello,

Go to your nearest clinic and they will refer you to one 



B-Wise User KHANYISA Ndzeku 4 June 2020 14:06

I had a sister that I could talk to with anything that bother me but now she is gone and I feel lonely what can I do because really need a friend

B-Wise Expert Expert 4 June 2020 17:04

Hello,

Use the contact information below to talk to a counselor who can give you advice:

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B-Wise User Anonymous 21 May 2020 21:30

I'm alone in mi life No one n im really looking for someone whom I can call mi bestie so wat can i Do?

B-Wise Expert Expert 22 May 2020 10:44

Hello,

Use the contact information below to talk to a counselor who can give you advice:

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You can also whatsapp Life Line at 065 989 9238



B-Wise User Anonymous 19 April 2020 13:38

I'm all alone in my life no friends no nothing What should i do

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2020 11:47

Hi there,

Loneliness is not easy. Please reach out to someone on the contact details in this link: https://bwisehealth.com/article/help-support-mental-health-substance-abuse



B-Wise User Anonymous 5 April 2020 17:50

Don't be y must have fun and injoy yourself,but not too much

B-Wise Expert Expert 8 April 2020 16:27

Hi,

Yes fun is important and definitely not too much.

Great advice.



B-Wise User Anonymous 2 April 2020 20:38

What if I'm under selfitolation

B-Wise Expert Expert 7 April 2020 13:45

Hi There, 


You can call any of the tollfree lines and talk to someone https://bwisehealth.com/article/help-support-mental-health-substance-abuse



B-Wise User Invisible123 2 April 2020 20:38

What if I'm under selfitolation

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Hey there, 


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