Help & Support: Your Body & Sexual Health

The best place to get help or advice is always at your local clinic or doctor. You could visit a clinic outside of your community if you feel your health problem is embarrassing.

  • For contraception and family planning info and services, call Marie Stopes clinics: 0800 117 785
  • Want to know more about Medical Male Circumcision? SMS 'MMC' to 43740
  • Call the Emergency Contraception Hotline to hear pre-recorded info that could help you on 0800 246 432
  • Call the LoveLife Sexual Health line 24hours on 0800 121 900 if you need help or have questions. Keep trying if you don't get through!

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B-Wise User Simtha 25 June 2020 18:28

Hi...is it possible for a pregnancy test to test negative while you're pregnant

B-Wise Expert Expert 26 June 2020 16:39

Hi there,

The chances of this happening are low but the test can show a false negative result. I advise you to take another one to be sure



B-Wise User Simtha 23 June 2020 22:53

Hi.i would like to know how accurate is a pregnancy test...cause I've done three of these tests two came out negative and one it gave invalid results...and I see my tummy is growing please help

B-Wise Expert Expert 24 June 2020 15:07

Hello,

Pregnancy test can be 98% accurate when used correctly. It is best to take them one week after missing your period.

If they are not working for you then you need to go the clinic to get checked there



B-Wise User Tokoyi 21 June 2020 23:43

hellow i never go to piriods but im 30yrs can u tell me y

B-Wise Expert Expert 22 June 2020 15:08

Hello,

You need to go to the doctor or clinic to get checked as soon as possible because that is not normal. There may be something happening with your reproductive system



B-Wise User Anonymous 20 June 2020 22:51

Hi im 18weeks pregnant and my womb it's cramping what can be the cause?

B-Wise Expert Expert 22 June 2020 14:55

Hi,

You need to go to a clinic or doctor to get checked. They will tell you what is happening after checking you and treat you



B-Wise User Anonymous 5 June 2020 22:19

I've been on narstirate for 2 days now and it's for the first time , so is it save for me to have sex or should i wait for more days?

B-Wise Expert Expert 7 June 2020 15:38

Hello, 

You can have sex with a condom. You can't have unprotected sex for at least a full week.



B-Wise User Anonymous 3 June 2020 23:20

Hi.i want to have sex but I'm afraid of getting pregnant. Because maybe the condom will blast or any complications during sexual intercourse. So should i go and buy the morning after pill just for safety? Because I'm not how long does it take for nastriate (contraceptives) to work?!

B-Wise Expert Expert 4 June 2020 12:03

Hello,

If you have been on contraceptives for more than 2 weeks and you use a condom then you will be safe. Just make sure you use the condom properly. 

Read this: https://bwisehealth.com/article/how-to-use-a-male-condom

You can also use a female condom: https://bwisehealth.com/article/how-to-use-the-female-condom



B-Wise User Anonymous 29 May 2020 21:45

Hi I am a 13 year old boy and I am going through a stage where I have a crush on guys and on girls is this a bad feeling

B-Wise Expert Expert 31 May 2020 16:28

Hello,

It's not a bad feeling at all.



B-Wise User Anonymous 24 May 2020 14:43

I have something like veins growing in my terrible am I developing some sickness?

B-Wise Expert Expert 24 May 2020 14:51

Hi,

You need to go to a clinic or doctor to get checked. They will tell you what is happening after checking you 



B-Wise User Anonymous 23 May 2020 21:14

my sister is dating a 18 year old guy and she is only 12 years old is there something wrong about that

B-Wise Expert Expert 24 May 2020 12:41

Hello,

Yes there is something wrong. Your sister is too young to be dating someone that old. It is against the law



B-Wise User Anonymous 23 May 2020 13:21

Hello i had my period on the 7 of May and finish on the 11 of May and on the 14 of May i had sex and i took a morning after pill that very same day and on the 22 May im on my period again can i be pregnant or what

B-Wise Expert Expert 24 May 2020 12:28

Hello,

You are not pregnant. The morning after pill sometimes makes women go on their period again



B-Wise User Anonymous 18 May 2020 23:02

Hi I was using contraceptives for few months and stopped after not receiving my periods since April 2019.since then i haven't received my periods or fallen pregnant is something wrong or it's normal

B-Wise Expert Expert 19 May 2020 15:53

Hello,

Many contraceptives change a person's menstrual cycle so that is normal. If you are saying that you haven't gotten your period for a full year since stopping your contraceptive then you need to go to the clinic or doctor to get examined.



B-Wise User Anonymous 8 May 2020 18:46

Hey I want to stop menstruation help me out

B-Wise Expert Expert 10 May 2020 13:42

Hi there, 

Please give me more information on why you want to stop your menstruation



B-Wise User Anonymous 24 April 2020 13:30

hey i have been taking arvs from birth and i had unprotected sex with my partner is it possible she could have the hiv while im on arv

B-Wise Expert Expert 24 April 2020 14:33

Hi there,

It all depends on what your viral load is. A low viral load means that you are less likely to transmit the infection to someone else. But there is no guarantee. You and your partner need to be using protection when you are having sex.

Your partner also needs to go to the clinic to get tested.



B-Wise User bulie 19 April 2020 23:18

Does a pregnant women get menstruation?

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2020 12:19

Hello,

Some women do get their menstruation when they are pregnant but I would advise the woman to go to the clinic or doctor to get checked to make sure everything is okay.



B-Wise User Anonymous 19 April 2020 23:16

does 45 years female has chances of getting pregnant?

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2020 12:14

Hi there,

A woman that age has very little chance of falling pregnant.



B-Wise User Jacket 15 April 2020 18:43

Thank doc 4 de understanding our needs and taking your time to answer Dem I really appreciate it

B-Wise Expert Expert 16 April 2020 11:59

Hey,

There's no problem at all. 



B-Wise User Anonymous 15 April 2020 17:51

Hii...me and my boyfriend tried having sex but I couldn't lubricate is that normal?

B-Wise Expert Expert 16 April 2020 11:36

Hello,

It is quite normal for a woman to not lubricate or get wet during sex. It can happen because of many reasons such as not being in the mood, a side effect of a contraceptive or your hormones not being in balance. I would recommend that you and your boyfriend play around more (foreplay) before having sex. Read more here: https://bwisehealth.com/article/sex-toys-the-dos-and-donts

I would also recommend that you start masturbating so you can know what you enjoy: https://bwisehealth.com/article/masturbation-and-orgasm-touch-play



B-Wise User Anonymous 12 April 2020 00:21

Hi I have asthma and I wanted toowhatbother home remedies can I use for helping my chest open and lungs yes ginger and honey works for me but I need something more effective I would like too try other natural erbs for helping the mucus come up

B-Wise Expert Expert 21 April 2020 13:39

Hi there, 

Go to the clinic or doctor for treatment for your asthma. Home remedies are good but the doctor will give you medication to help.



B-Wise User Anonymous 22 November 2019 13:29

A couple of days ago my boyfriend and I attempted having sex, my first time, but I was too tight and he couldn't get his penis in so we agreed on trying some other time. I've read the article on virginity on the site. I had my period about a week ago and usually get bad cramps and I've started getting those cramps again. Should I be worried?

B-Wise Expert Expert 25 November 2019 11:13

Hi there, thank you for your question. If you mean you are getting cramps after your period ended, it is possible that you may have a stomach bug, if these cramps continue, it would be best that you visit the local doctor as soon as possible 



B-Wise User Anonymous 16 November 2019 17:41

Hi.. My boyfriend and I tried having sex(note that it would be my first time) but it somehow went wrong I guess.we were both sexually aroused. He tried inserting his penis several times and it just didn't work, he says I'm "really tight down there" and should try some other time. How can I prevent it from happening again?

B-Wise Expert Expert 17 November 2019 17:27

Hi there, thank you for your question. This is normal especially because this is your first time having sex, there's nothing you should be worrying about. You can read more here about your virginity  https://bwisehealth.com/article/what-is-virginity



B-Wise User Anonymous 2 October 2019 20:20

Hi...am experiencing something different in my breasts the other one is bigger than the other by size i can say 30A and 32A, its been happening for couple of months am even scared to see a doctor abt it because am having some thought of it might be cancer or something i cant handle. Wat do u think it might be??

B-Wise Expert Expert 3 October 2019 10:49

Hi there, thank you for your question. There are different reasons why breasts may grow such as puberty, weight increase or pregnancy. It can be scary to go to the doctor sometimes but remember its better to know what may be wrong so you can get the treatment that you need.



B-Wise User Anonymous 15 September 2019 15:56

I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend and i had forgetten to take my contraceptions now i passed the due date for my period to begin i had bleeding day after the missed period could i be pregnant

B-Wise Expert Expert 15 September 2019 20:36

Hi there, please visit your local clinic a doctor or nurse will be take a pregnancy test and tell you if you are pregnant or not.



B-Wise User Anonymous 11 September 2019 15:51

can a cut on penis cause a lymph node

B-Wise Expert Expert 17 September 2019 10:28

 Hi there. Any break in the skin, including on the penis, may be prone to attract infection. Lymph nodes are the swelling of glands which is usually a response to an infection.



B-Wise User Anonymous 27 August 2019 10:15

What does it mean when one has a lot of discharge coming out that it requires you to wear a panty liner everutday

B-Wise Expert Expert 28 August 2019 15:20

Hi there, read this article to learn more https://bwisehealth.com/article/-i-have-a-discharge-do-i-have-an-sti-



B-Wise User Anonymous 5 July 2019 22:13

what causes a penis to swell after having sex but 3 moths of circumcision has passed?

B-Wise Expert Expert 8 July 2019 08:38

Hi there,  learn more about STIs here https://bwisehealth.com/category/sti



B-Wise User Kortjie 16 May 2019 21:24

Hii I'm ailandii and I just want to ask something... Can you begin having a child if your boyfriend has HIV just asking

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 May 2019 08:07

Hi there, read this article to learn more https://bwisehealth.com/article/if-i-m-hiv-positive-can-i-have-kids



B-Wise User Anonymous 17 April 2019 15:31

Hello i'm in a relationship and sexual active. My boyfriend is 7 years older than me and i asked him to get circumcise, but his answer is he is a afraid. i have explained to him several times and we even went to a health and information session at my church.His answer still remain the same what do i do?

B-Wise Expert Expert 18 April 2019 09:37

Hi there, share this article with your partner https://bwisehealth.com/article/mmc-all-the-facts-about-medical-male-circumcision-exposed 



B-Wise User Anonymous 26 January 2019 16:01

Hello My son is eight years old and he has underarm ouder,I tried to use lemon and vinegar but they are not working. I bath him twice a day but the smell won't go away. I want to know what can I use because I think he is still young to use deodorant.

B-Wise Expert Expert 28 January 2019 15:15

Dear Anonymous. Stinky sweat is an early sign that puberty has already begun in your child’s body. It’s a sign that the body is maturing and hormones are changing. It’s nothing to worry about but you can mention it to the doctor or nurse who can further advice on your next clinic visit. You can also try a sweet smelling shower gel or antibacterial soaps to try reduce the smell. If this doesn’t help try a mild deodorant. Read this article to learn more: Smells and sweat: keep it clean.




B-Wise User Anonymous 15 December 2018 16:28

Hi Please help I have suicidal thoughts.....

B-Wise Expert Expert 15 December 2018 18:35

Hi there thanks for reaching out. It sounds like things are really hard right now, but we're so glad you are asking for help. You have a few options: you can speak to someone in your life is there's someone you trust. Or you can speak to a counsellor or social worker at a clinic. Or you can call a helpline where there are counsellors who can talk you through it. What would work best for you? If you feel like you might do something to hurt yourself, please tell someone now and get them to take you to the nearest hospital. You can also call Lifeline on 0117281347 or SADAG on 0800 21 22 23 (8am to 8pm) or 0800 12 13 14 (8pm to 8am). There are people who can help you and there is hope



B-Wise User Anonymous 10 December 2018 10:09

Hi I take my ARV's my partner and I would like to have a baby next year what can I take to boost the chance to have a baby

B-Wise Expert Expert 12 December 2018 22:42

Hi Boitumelo98, thank you for your question.  It would be best for you to visit your local clinic and talk to a nurse. Depending on your viral load and your medication they will be able to tell you exactly what you need to take to boost your chances of having a baby. Good luck and all the best! 



B-Wise User Anonymous 5 November 2018 19:44

please help i am a married woman, and have suffered numerous miscourages the last 1 being this year in June at 5 months. went through the cleaning process at the hospital, but i have never had normal periods ever since. the blood is very dark and just drops that lasts for 2 days... previously id have a full 5day cycle. what could be the problem

B-Wise Expert Expert 8 November 2018 12:48

Hi MasetleK, thank you for your question. Sorry to hear about your miscarriages, it must have been very difficult for you. Due to your miscarriages it is possible for your cycle to change due to the hormonal change that your body has gone through. If you are still concerned about your period its best that you visit your local clinic and get checked by a nurse or a doctor.



B-Wise User Anonymous 25 June 2018 14:39

My vagina have been itching for a month now after having sex for the first time,what may be causing this?

B-Wise Expert Expert 9 July 2018 12:21

There are a few different things that can cause vaginal itching, so it is a good idea to go to your clinic/healthcare provider so you can be properly assessed and get the right treatment for you. If you haven’t already, while you are there it might also be a good chance for you to find out more about different contraception options, pap smears and HIV testing. Thrush (yeast infection) is one of the more common causes of your symptom, and it is usually quite easily treatable, but a proper discussion with a nurse/doctor is the best way to see what will help you. Visit www.bwisehealth.com  to find a clinic near you. 



B-Wise User Anonymous 18 October 2017 22:02

Wil I have bleeding after taking the morning after pill

B-Wise Expert Expert 5 April 2018 17:46

Hi there, if you mean bleeding as in having your periods, then yes – you will have your period if you have taken the morning after pill at the right time (which is 72 hours after you’ve had unprotected sex). You may not get your period on the normal day that it usually starts. If you don’t get your period for a month, it’s best to go to your local clinic for a check-up. If you don’t know the HIV status of the person you had sex with, it’s a good idea to go to the clinic very soon to get tested for HIV. The healthcare worker might recommend that you take PEP (Post Exposure Prophylaxis) to protect you from HIV infection. 



B-Wise User Anonymous 27 July 2017 20:07

How does one get their ARV treatment from pharmacies like clicks/dischem. The collections at clinics take all day and I can't miss class and work to collect. A friend told me about an sms system but I am even afraid to ask at my clinic

B-Wise Expert Expert 3 August 2017 16:44

Hi anonymous, there is a  system is in place to help people get their medicines quickly, just as you said, so they don’t spend all day in clinics waiting in long queues. Please note that this system is only for people who are well, stable and virally suppressed on their treatment for more than 1 year. Please do ask at your clinic, there might be other options available at your local clinic, so it is worth asking about.



B-Wise User lethabo 8 July 2017 22:57

If a girl slept with a boy whom never go to circumcision and thyboth have un protect sex,what will happen?

B-Wise Expert Expert 12 July 2017 15:29

Hi Lethabo, circumcision protects a man from getting HIV infection, but even if he is circumcised, he can still get HIV. Unprotected sex can also put both of you at risk of sexually transmitted infections as well as HIV. Having unprotected sex can also result in unwanted pregnancy. It is important to always use a condom every time you have sex. For more information check out our article I am circumcised – why do I still need to use a condom?



B-Wise User Anonymous 12 September 2016 17:52

I want more information about the MMC.

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2018 13:43

Hi Anonymous, MMC stands for medical male circumcision. This is an operation in which the foreskin (the fold of skin that covers the head of the penis) is removed. Medical male circumcision reduces a young men's risk of getting infected with HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. If you over 16 years old, you can choose to be circumcised at a local clinic or hospital without your parent's permission. Talk to a nurse or doctor if you are thinking about circumcised. You can read more on MMC, on B-Wise "Know your body" in the "Boy's body guide".



B-Wise Expert Expert 16 September 2016 14:00

Hi Anonymous, MMC stands for medical male circumcision. This is an operation in which the foreskin (the fold of skin that covers the head of the penis) is removed. Medical male circumcision reduces a young men's risk of getting infected with HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. If you over 16 years old, you can choose to be circumcised at a local clinic or hospital without your parent's permission. Talk to a nurse or doctor if you are thinking about circumcised. You can read more on MMC, on B-Wise "Know your body" in the "Boy's body guide".


B-Wise User Tiisetso 13 May 2016 13:20

would you please give information on these site about contraceptive methods please

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2018 14:40

Hi Tiisetso, thank you for your request. We agree knowledge about contraceptive methods is very important. Please search the word \"contraceptive\" on the B-wise mobisite or select \"Know your body\" from the Menu and then select \"The Basics of S-E-X\" for articles on contraceptive methods. Happy reading!



B-Wise Expert Expert 16 May 2016 13:02

Hi Tiisetso, thank you for your request. We agree knowledge about contraceptive methods is very important. Please search the word \"contraceptive\" on the B-wise mobisite or select \"Know your body\" from the Menu and then select \"The Basics of S-E-X\" for articles on contraceptive methods. Happy reading!