How to talk to your partner about condoms

So you and your partner have decided that you are ready to have sex and you want to make sure you don't get pregnant or get an STI or HIV. But how do you bring up the topic of safe sex and condoms?

Here are a few tips:

Try not to leave it until the last minute. It will be much easier for both of you to discuss safe sex when you decide that you are ready to have sex. Trying to negotiate safe sex (which means always using a condom) and trying to find condoms in the sexual moment is too late.

Here are some ways to bring up the subject:

  • "Do you have condoms, or should we buy some together?"
  • "I always use condoms. I'm not ready to have a baby. Are you?"
  • "Have you ever used female condoms? Maybe we'll like them more. We should try them."
  • "Should we use your condoms or mine?"
  • "Have you seen the new scented and coloured condoms at the clinic? They have strawberry, banana and grape!"
  • "There are so many types of condoms now. I hear some feel great and protect us from getting pregnant or getting a STI"

It is also a good idea to learn how to put on a condom. That way if your partner does not know how to, you can help them. Remember, using condoms protects you from getting HIV, other STIs and pregnancy.

If you have any more questions or concerns visit a local clinic and speak to a healthcare worker or ask your question in the comment section below.

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B-Wise User Lufunolerato 17 March 2019 21:08

I think if we are in a relationship I can also bring condoms as a woman is not only man who can bring them

B-Wise Expert Expert 18 March 2019 09:07

Hi thank you for that , yes that's true both partners should bring the condom 

B-Wise User Anonymous 16 March 2017 18:57

But what if your partner says no???

B-Wise Expert Expert 13 April 2018 14:49

Hi there, thank you for your question. Remember, you have the power to say yes or no. Only you have that power and that right. For more information you can read our article on You have the POWER to say yes or no!