I Am Me

Dear black man, please don’t call me sexy… rather intelligent, if not smart. Please don’t call me big… rather bold, if not loud. I am me, and if you can’t deal with how I am made that’s fine, but please keep your comments to yourself.

I was walking down the streets with a friend of mine when an old man grabbed me and whispered into my ear, “My size”. He began to laugh out loudly. He said he could just eat me. Dear black man, I am not measured to fit you – I am measured to change the world. I am not food to eat; it’s fine that when you look at me you feel hungry, but please run along and go order yourself a Big Mac.

My body, my rights. How I choose to crop my tops has nothing to do with you. If my makeup bothers you then please look the other way, and please, dear black man, how I wear my hair is entirely up to me. I am me and what I do with me awaits not your approval. I don’t need to conform to your requirements to be considered beautiful. If I look in the mirror and feel beautiful then that’s all I need.

I am me; I am a bold and loud woman. I am six faces: I am integrity, genuine, faithful, talented, intelligent and smart. My voice carries a song of principle and teaching; I speak, stand and applaud.  I am authority, and yes, I build a nation. I am the beginner of new life. So next time you want a woman with a flat tummy and petite breasts remember how you came to this earth.

Dear black man, respect is earned. Respect your African bold and loud woman.

By O’lerato’ona Mmadikhu Sesing

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B-Wise User Angiebotha@gemail.com 2 July 2020 00:18

Hi I am a White girl how is torn apart about what people say to me how do I give up on them and don't listen to what people say to me

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B-Wise User Hopewell Disane 21 November 2019 17:50

I am a black male! & I can totally say you're doing what's best for you. If you feel beautiful, you are beautiful. Find a way to survive because they win when your soul dies. We need more people who're confident & full of self-esteem in South Africa. We love you skat

B-Wise User Anonymous 11 June 2019 15:06

Well said thanks for sharing

B-Wise User Chubby doll 21 April 2019 22:17

A lot of girls needed to hear that-Thank you

B-Wise User Mologadi Monoge 12 March 2019 09:13

Thanks Olerato������

B-Wise User tshego 11 July 2017 13:29

Yah neh....black man respect doesn't fall frm the sky it is earned

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2018 11:50

Hi there, thank you for your feedback and reading the story.

B-Wise User slender 26 June 2017 00:40

Olerato that is very wonderful story.

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2018 12:02

Hey there, thank you for your feedback.

B-Wise User meganmartin 8 March 2017 13:07

Beautiful and powerful, thank you O'lerato!

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2018 12:14

Hi there, thank you for your response!