I'm pregnant, eek! What are my options?

Eish! An unplanned pregnancy can be a pretty big shock. As long as you're keeping yourself healthy and feeling okay about your decision, there is no wrong way to deal with it. Here are your main options:

• Being a good parent: Having the baby and raising it yourself means making some decisions, like whether you stay in school, TVET or university. Is your baby's daddy with you? Does he want to help take care of the child? What support do you have in your life? If your family can help you, it's a lot easier.

• Adoption: This means you would have the baby but another family would raise the child. It can be hard to give birth to a child and then let them go but, it can also be a real comfort to know that someone's taking care of your child, especially if you aren’t able to.

• Termination of pregnancy (abortion): This is a medical procedure which ends a pregnancy. In South Africa, if you're over 12 years old you have the right to consent to it. Termination of pregnancy might leave you with a lot of different feelings, from relief to sadness. If you're considering it, talk to a doctor or go to a clinic that specialises in women's health. Make sure the process is safe for you and is done by medical professionals at a proper clinic or hospital.

Think carefully about your options. Maybe ask yourself: Can I take care of a child? Do I want a child? These are tough questions to ask, but they're worth facing up to, to find the right option for you.

If you are pregnant and want to receive information on pregnancy and your baby for free from NDOH, register for MomConnect at your local clinic or dial * 134 * 550 #.

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Anonymous 13 November 2017 16:44

They are lot of young people killing themselves because of abortion..How does it then make you relief and sad ?

B-Wise Expert Expert 28 November 2017 14:30

Hi, thanks for this interesting question! Everyone who has an abortion has a different experience of it and feels different things about it. For some people it can be really difficult or traumatic, and maybe you have seen that this can even lead to people hurting themselves. For others, it can feel like a relief, and others can feel sad, or confused, or nothing at all. How you feel about it depends on a lot of things, like your personality, your values and what abortion means to you. It’s good to ask for help and talk about your feelings if you need to. 



BWise Moderators 21 August 2017 12:16

Malum'Bandile asked on Facebook:Hi ,I suspect my girlfriend is 3 days pregnant and we dont want to keep the baby... are there any food that can Kill the development of a foetus before its too late.

B-Wise Expert Expert 21 August 2017 12:37

 Hi Malu’andile, Thank you for seeking advice with your situation! It is important to first confirm that your girlfriend is pregnant before doing anything further. Pregnancy can be confirmed with a urine pregnancy test, which can be done at your nearest clinic, or your girlfriend can perform this test at home by buying a pregnancy test from a pharmacy. Once the pregnancy is confirmed, please visit your nearest clinic to get information on what to do. Your girlfriend should not eat or drink anything to try and terminate the pregnancy herself. Often, this will just result in her becoming ill but will not result in a termination. There are no foods that can induce termination of pregnancy.



BWise Moderators 10 April 2017 11:45

Keitumetse asked a question on facebook: how do you see yourself when you are pregnant?

B-Wise Expert Expert 10 April 2017 17:02

Every pregnant woman is different. Some women are happy, confident, full of energy and feel beautiful. Some feel tired, bloated, sick, sore, scared or uncomfortable. And some have a mix. Some women love being pregnant, others can’t wait for the 9 months to be over! All of this is completely normal. Talk to your friends and family and other women who have had babies. Tell people how you feel so that you can be supported.