I will get tested; I will know my status

I am an adolescent and I am sexually active. My friends decided to go for prevention pills so that they do not fall pregnant, so that was the way to protect ourselves. I mean I trusted my boyfriend and thought that having unprotected sex with him will prove how much I love him. As we continued having sex without a condom for a couple of months, I found out I was not the only girl he was shagging with. In fact the reality of the situation was that he was cheating on his girlfriend with me and some other girls. WHAT A SHOCK!!

I had to move on and I took responsibility and went for an HIV test. I received counselling before the test and decided indeed I would like to know my status. I had to wait for fifteen minutes before I could receive the results. It was the longest fifteen minutes in my life. Fortunately, the test was negative. I was advised about the window period (this means that the virus may be present but undetectable and I need to be tested again in a few weeks).

Of course I was very happy and relieved about the results. It was also an eye opener to discover that I am the only one who can take care of ME. I haven’t had sex since then, and even if I decide otherwise, I will always use a condom, because I know that before I can be faithful to my partner I have to be faithful to myself. I am currently living an HIV free life and I intend to keep it like that, although having HIV is not a death sentence.

We cannot choose our families but we can choose friends, what we say to and about others, what we do and when, where we go and not. This simply says we are responsible for our actions; we are the ones who take decisions and let us be responsible. We choose what to entertain and I choose to focus on my studies and future.

Thandeka* 19 years

(Name changed)

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Ttttt 26 August 2018 19:46

Great job for tasting

B-Wise Expert Expert 27 August 2018 03:53

Hi there, thank you for your comment. Yes we agree, it was a great decision to make. It's important to get tested and to know your status.

Legit the kid 17 July 2018 14:21

You done a great job,going for hiv test.sometimes guys are dwag

peggy 4 July 2018 11:06

why you trust the person you don't know

B-Wise Expert Expert 9 July 2018 10:14

Hi there. Thank you for your comment and taking the time to read Thandeka's story.

Kandy 4 May 2018 15:12


Mstb 20 April 2018 17:13

Wow I'm very proud of you honestly I would like to tell you pat yourself in the back for standing up and knowing your status not most people will do that and as for living an Hive free live style that's a good choice, all I can say is don't forget to go back to recheck your status no matter the results you learn from you're mistakes and move on.

B-Wise Expert Expert 23 April 2018 09:55

Hi there, thank you for taking the time to read this story! We are happy that you are inspired by it.

saskia 20 October 2017 13:02

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Anonymous 20 October 2017 13:02

Wow thandeka u inspired many young girls its treu its not a dead sentence its how u life your heart

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2018 09:47

Hi there, thank you for your feedback! We are happy that you are inspired by this story.

slender 25 June 2017 22:33

The story is very motivation to us as young girls

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2018 10:04

Hey there, thank you for your feedback.  

seaconutey 29 July 2016 23:06

Indeed you're the only one who can take care of yourself and protecting yourself and securing your future is It's the best decision that you're making...please encourage or to so too

Anonymous 20 July 2016 09:52

Its always wise yo know ur status n stay safe.

skhalo 14 May 2016 09:23

Thandeka u are an inspiring person indeed a happy to hear how changed u ar

Tiisetso 13 May 2016 11:24

thats very Educative,its very important to know our status

nobom. 17 March 2016 21:49

the story is very motivating for us as young girls.. boys are playing with us and the worse part they take long to be infected