Masturbation and Orgasm: Touch & play

Masturbation (or playing with yourself) is when you touch or rub your own sex parts in a way that feels good. This may lead to a nice feeling called orgasm. Both boys and girls masturbate and can have an orgasm.


Masturbation is safe, fun and natural. It is how you learn to make these good feelings for yourself. Most people masturbate in private. Some do so more than others. The amount of time spent masturbating is different for everybody.


Thinking about things that are exciting when masturbating is completely normal. These are called fantasies.


If you masturbate, you can teach your body how to have an orgasm. This is also called ‘coming’. It is usually a feeling of pleasure (like gentle waves of muscles squeezing) at the peak of sexual excitement. The feeling starts in the sex organs and moves outwards through the whole body. People usually have orgasms during sex or masturbation.

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B-Wise User Anonymous 14 July 2020 23:29

Is it bad to masturbate when you're below 18

B-Wise Expert Expert 15 July 2020 10:23

Hi there,

No, it is not bad at all. There is nothing wrong with it



B-Wise User Anonymous 7 July 2020 23:10

Hie Doc,in women when we produce what type of liquid do we release & when producing do we always release liquids or the feelings will jus fade away without releasing anything

B-Wise Expert Expert 8 July 2020 17:24

Hello, 

Do you mean when you cum?

Some women squirt liquid, some just have a creamy discharge. Some women don't produce anything and just feel



B-Wise User Anonymous 4 July 2020 08:17

Hi Is there a trick a gal can try to do in order to get aroused with out watching pornography

B-Wise Expert Expert 4 July 2020 17:18

Hello,

You can think of someone you think is attractive



B-Wise User Anonymous 3 July 2020 10:26

Hi Doc how can I feel my hymen or how do I get to see it through the mirror

B-Wise Expert Expert 3 July 2020 12:46

Hi there,

You can feel your hymen by fingering yourself



B-Wise User Anonymous 3 July 2020 09:12

Hi Doc so does fingering take away my virginity

B-Wise Expert Expert 3 July 2020 12:45

Hi,

Please read this: https://bwisehealth.com/article/what-is-virginity



B-Wise User Anonymous 2 July 2020 08:13

Am a gal and wen I finger myself with one finger don't feel anything but with 3 I do is it normal

B-Wise Expert Expert 2 July 2020 09:09

Hello,

Yes it is normal. Different people finger themselves differently. Do what works for you 



B-Wise User Anonymous 2 July 2020 08:07

Is fingering good for your health

B-Wise Expert Expert 2 July 2020 09:08

Hi there,

Fingering does not affect your health so it is okay



B-Wise User Anonymous 21 June 2020 10:44

I am a gal how do I musterbate and finger myself explain step by step.i would like to musterbate and orgasm.

B-Wise User Anonymous 18 June 2020 12:59

How do I get myself to be aroused before I musterbate I am a girl

B-Wise Expert Expert 18 June 2020 21:20

Hello,

People use different methods. Some think of something that arouses them and others watch porn



B-Wise User Anonymous 5 June 2020 14:14

Hello I have two boyfriends and i have sex with both of them but I don't seem to come when I have sex with my main boyfriend and he is the one I love the most I always come with my side boyfriend I enjoy him more is the problem with me or my main boyfriend plz help what can I do

B-Wise Expert Expert 5 June 2020 19:25

Hello,

Use the contact information below to talk to a counselor who can give you advice:

Get in touch with LoveLife's Contact Centre on 0800 121 900 or send a PLZ CAL ME to 083 323 1023 

You can also whatsapp Life Line at 065 989 9238



B-Wise User Maphindi@100 2 June 2020 17:45

Hello...I need help..never had orgasm in my life...please help...tried everthing

B-Wise Expert Expert 3 June 2020 16:19

Hello,

I recommend that you start by masturbating to get to know what you like and what you don't like. This will help you teach your partner what to do.

Remember, a lot of women don't orgasm so you are not alone.



B-Wise User Anonymous 2 June 2020 00:41

What cause to sperm fast when u have sex

B-Wise Expert Expert 2 June 2020 15:01

Hello,

You might be stressed when having sex so that makes you nervous. If this doesn't get better then go to the clinic or doctor.



B-Wise User Anonymous 28 May 2020 16:18

Hello If you put penis to the vagina does men or boys feel the pain or are the girls feel the pain or what. You know why am asking is because I never experience sex

B-Wise Expert Expert 28 May 2020 17:22

Hello there,

Girls usually feel pain the first time they have sex. Boys don't. The girls will stop feeling pain when they get used to having sex.



B-Wise User Anonymous 23 May 2020 08:23

If u put your finger very deep in your vergina will u break your verginity

B-Wise Expert Expert 24 May 2020 12:20

Hello,

Yes you can



B-Wise User Anonymous 21 May 2020 15:20

Hy can u break your vergin by putting your finger in your vergina

B-Wise Expert Expert 21 May 2020 17:41

Hello,

Yes you can



B-Wise User Anonymous 17 May 2020 23:23

Hey when me and my boyfriend have sex I can't seem to orgasm. Is that normal?

B-Wise Expert Expert 18 May 2020 13:16

Hello,

Many women struggle to orgasm so you are not alone.

This is why it is important to masturbate because you can teach your partner what you like and don't like.



B-Wise User Anonymous 14 May 2020 12:06

Hi If u have sex were must u put in ur penis in Vigana/ bum

B-Wise Expert Expert 14 May 2020 16:27

You need to ask the person you are having sex with for their permission to put your penis in their vagina/bum. You must ask the person what they are comfortable with



B-Wise User Unique.self 21 April 2020 10:52

Is it right to masturbate during a period?

B-Wise Expert Expert 21 April 2020 12:47

Hello,

There is no problem with masturbating when you are on your period. As long as you are comfortable.



B-Wise User Anonymous 14 April 2020 16:32

Why can't I lubricate?

B-Wise Expert Expert 15 April 2020 12:34

Hello Jabu,

Please can you be more specific so I can help answer your question. What do you mean?



B-Wise User Black_Daisyð?¥? 4 April 2020 21:44

Hi, When I masturbate I come out white sticky stuff is that normal

B-Wise Expert Expert 8 April 2020 16:17

Hello,

This sounds very normal. As long as there is no pain and the discharge goes away.

The fluid comes from your body because your genitals have been stimulated.



B-Wise User Anonymous 3 April 2020 20:16

I masterbate everyday and twice a day depending on how busy I am , I no longer enjoy intimacy ..i even finger myself akhona...do you think i need help?

B-Wise Expert Expert 7 April 2020 14:19

Masturbation is a healthy normal way of satisfying yourself sexually. It is also one of the safest ways to have sex. So there is no need to worry about becoming pregnant or catching any sexually transmitted infection (STI) or HIV/AIDS.

There is no such thing as masturbating too much but if masturbating is affecting your life in a negative way then it might be time to get help. Here are signs to look out for:

You hurt yourself: You rub yourself so  much that sensitive part of your penis or vagina becomes painful and you start experiencing discomfort.

It’s affecting other things in your life: Your normal daily duties like your homework or socialising with your friends are affected because you are masturbating. You might not be able to stop yourself from doing it.

You’re avoiding being intimate with your partner: You come to a point where satisfying yourself on your own is more enjoyable than spending time with your bae.

If masturbation is disturbing the way you live your life, it may be time for you to see a health care provider.



B-Wise User J.P 30 March 2020 23:01

is there a problem if i masturbate everyday

B-Wise Expert Expert 1 April 2020 11:15

Hi there,

Masturbation is a healthy normal way of satisfying yourself sexually. It is also one of the safest ways to have sex. So there is no need to worry about becoming pregnant or catching any sexually transmitted infection (STI) or HIV/AIDS.

There is no such thing as masturbating too much but if masturbating is affecting your life in a negative way then it might be time to get help. Here are signs to look out for:

You hurt yourself: You rub yourself so  much that sensitive part of your penis or vagina becomes painful and you start experiencing discomfort.

It’s affecting other things in your life: Your normal daily duties like your homework or socialising with your friends are affected because you are masturbating. You might not be able to stop yourself from doing it.

You’re avoiding being intimate with your partner: You come to a point where satisfying yourself on your own is more enjoyable than spending time with your bae.

If masturbation is disturbing the way you live your life, it may be time for you to see a health care provider.



B-Wise User Anonymous 18 March 2020 16:15

Which hole do you use to masturbate because I have problems with masturbation

B-Wise Expert Expert 23 March 2020 11:49

Hello, 


Please read more on the basics of sex https://bwisehealth.com/category/basics-of-s-e-x



B-Wise User KillerKat 21 September 2019 12:52

Hello when I have sex I come in seconds or maybe 5mins Like every time when I put it,in I don't take time I cum fast,Why

B-Wise Expert Expert 23 September 2019 10:15

Hi there, you can find your answers here https://bwisehealth.com/article/sexual-and-reproductive-health-tips-for-men 



B-Wise User Anonymous 23 January 2019 11:15

Hi is it healthy for a person to have sex almost every day?

B-Wise Expert Expert 28 January 2019 00:06

Dear Anonymous. It’s normal to have sex everyday as long as you and your partner want to have it. Read this article for more information on consent: Consent for sex: Is it a yes or a no? How to ask. The only time it’s not okay is when sex gets in the way of your day-to-day life, like your studies or your job. If you feel like sex is getting in the way of your life, it’s best you seek professional help from a doctor, counsellor or psychologist. Use our Clinic Finder to help you find a clinic near to you. No matter how much sex you have, remember to always practice protected sex and protect yourself from HIV, STIs and unplanned pregnancies. Click on this article for more information: I don't want to get an STI-how can I protect myself?.




B-Wise User Anonymous 14 December 2018 14:03

Hie...l dont know wats happening to me.. l dont feel anything when having sex most of the time l dont want to cause l dont have feelongs. I try even if he touches me am off cold how can l improve my sex life

B-Wise Expert Expert 17 December 2018 15:15

Hi there, thanks for your question.

There are lots of factors that could cause you not to feel anything, when having sex, things like:

·         The use of certain medications, particularly for depression.

·         Feeling shy or nervous.

·         Guilt about enjoying sexual activity.

·         Sexual abuse in the past.

·         Mental health conditions, such as depression or anxiety.

·         Stress.

·         Poor self-esteem (feeling bad about yourself).

·         Relationship issues, like problems with trust.

Take a look at the list above and see if you think it might be any of these. Whatever the problem is, though, it is very important for you and your partner to have open lines of communication, when it comes to intimacy. You may find that by simple communication, you and your partner may be more open to exploring your body together and discovering your body all over again. Sex involves both the mind and your emotions. Communicating your fears and desires with your partner may relieve a lot of stress for you and ultimately help you enjoy sex more. If you have tried this and you are still struggling, try talking to a counsellor (if you think the problem is emotional) or a nurse/ doctor (if you think the problem is physical).



B-Wise User Anonymous 20 June 2018 21:01

I don't enjoy sex at all. I just have sex to please my partner. Is it normal?

B-Wise Expert Expert 21 June 2018 12:57

Hi there, thank you for your question. Its important to know that sex is something pleasurable that you and your partner should be enjoying sex.

It is possible that you and your partner may not be doing things that both of you can enjoy. Pleasure during sex can also be about feeling close and turned on by your partner, so it also helps to make sure you trust them, and explore different ways to do foreplay. Relax, take all the time you need and have fun!




B-Wise User Anonymous 16 April 2018 11:21

what if your body does not have any feelings while you mastabating

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2018 10:45

Hi Anonymous. There could be a few reasons why you cannot feel pleasure. Anxiety or stress can cause problems. If you are getting frustrated thinking that you can't masturbate it may be part of the problem. Get yourself comfortable and try masturbating. Take your time and think about the feelings going on in your body. Most of all, relax. Check out our articles Am I masturbating too much?  and Masturbation and orgasm: touch and play  for more information about masturbation.




B-Wise User nqobas 21 July 2017 15:33

Can Masturbation make a sperm be infertile??

B-Wise Expert Expert 24 July 2017 15:56

Hi Nqobas. No, masturbation will not make you infertile. It does not affect the fertility of both males and females in any way. It will not affect the eggs of the female or the sperm of the male. And the male will not run out of sperm. The females eggs will not be affected as well. 



B-Wise User nqobas 19 July 2017 00:57

What can help if my body is addicted to musturbation?,I cant live without doing it. I am doing it maybe 5 times a week.

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 July 2017 18:07

Hi Nqobas, thanks for your question. It sounds like you’re really worried! Masturbation is a normal and healthy thing to do, and every person is different in how much they like to do it. In your teenage years your hormones can also affect your sex drive (how much sex you need). Masturbation is only a problem if:

·         It’s affecting other things in your life, like school or relationships;

·         You can’t stop thinking about it;

·         You feel out of control and unable to stop; or

·         You’re hurting yourself.

If it has become a problem for you, you can try stopping completely for a while, and starting again when you feel more in control. But if you are addicted, it may be because masturbating is helping you to escape from something else in your life which is hard to deal with. If you can work out what that is, and deal with it, you might feel better as well. If you’re really worried and it’s affecting your life, speak to a counsellor or psychologist at a clinic or hospital, and they can help you work through the problem. 



B-Wise User Thando 17 May 2017 15:18

Good day everyone...By the way you done it..... Can you hurt your body in some different way or u are safe??

B-Wise Expert Expert 19 May 2017 19:21

Hi Thando, Masturbation is when you touch or rub your sex organs and it feels nice. Boys and girls can masturbate. It is safe and you are protected from STIs and HIV. Masturbation is not wrong or bad.



B-Wise User monkie 16 March 2017 18:53

Good afternoon I just wanted to ask you if a person is a sex freak and the person masturbate like everyday and every two hours is it normal

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 March 2017 10:30

Hi anonymous, masturbating does not make you a sex freak. It is a healthy and normal way of satisfying yourself. However, if it is affecting your life in a negative way then it's time to speak to a psychologist or doctor at your local clinic.



B-Wise User Anonymous 16 March 2017 18:52

Good afternoon I just wanted to ask you if a person is a sex freak and the person masturbate like everyday and every two hours is it normal

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 March 2017 10:26

Hi Monkie, masturbating does not make you a sex freak. It is a healthy and normal way of satisfying yourself. However, if it is affecting your life in a negative way then it's time to speak to a psychologist or doctor at your local clinic.



B-Wise User Anonymous 31 October 2016 12:12

Is there specifical age range for musturbation .Can some1 be over that age ? At what age can u stop doing that?

B-Wise Expert Expert 31 October 2016 14:00

Hi Anonymous, Thanks for your question. There is no age limit for masturbation.


B-Wise User Anonymous 31 October 2016 12:07

Is fingering also musturbation??. Does it takes viginity

B-Wise Expert Expert 31 October 2016 14:00

Hi Anonymous, That's a difficult question. Fingering does not take your virginity. However, fingering can break the hymen or the very thin skin that covers the opening of the vagina. The hymen can also break when you do things riding a bike or horse riding. A broken hymn does not mean you are not a virgin.


B-Wise User Anonymous 29 July 2016 20:27

Does musturbating take your virginity?

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2018 14:01

Hi Anonymous, That is an interesting question. No, masturbating does not take your virginity.



B-Wise Expert Expert 1 August 2016 13:00

Hi Anonymous, That is an interesting question. No, masturbating does not take your virginity.