My identity, my sex, my gender, my attraction – what does it mean?

When people talk about their sex, their gender, their identity or their attraction, they are talking about different things. Let’s break down what these words mean:

What is identity?

Identity is at the heart of who we are. It’s the thoughts, feelings and abilities that make you you.

What is sex?

This is whether your genitals (private parts) are male, female, or a combination of both. Other things that go along with your sex are your hormones – females usually have more oestrogen and males have more testosterone – body shape, body hair, and whether or not you menstruate (have periods).

What is gender?

Gender is a society’s ideas about how males and females should look, feel and behave. Your gender identity is your own sense of yourself as male, female, both or neither. This could be the same as your sex, or different. 

What is attraction?

Attraction is who you have emotional, romantic or sexual feelings for. This is what the words lesbian, gay, bisexual, and heterosexual are about.

Your identity, your sex, your gender and your attraction are yours and yours alone – no one else can tell you what they are. And it’s OK if you’re still finding out. To learn more about sexuality and identity, check out our article “What does LGBTIQ mean?”


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B-Wise User Anonymous 22 May 2020 11:42

Hi Doc can I change my sexuality I hate how I feel please help me out

B-Wise Expert Expert 22 May 2020 14:04

Hello,

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