Waiting for the right person

We hear relationship advice everywhere. Friends, family, church, TV and social media all have things to say about who we should be dating and how we should do it. But sometimes this advice can be confusing, or one person’s advice goes against another person’s.

You might hear that you should wait for the right person before having sex for the first time. If this sounds wise to you, you’ll have to decide…who is the “right person”?

The right person is different for everyone, but it’s someone you like as a person – not just as a friend, or a hook-up, but as someone who is special to you. You like the person for more than just their looks or the nice things they can give you. With the right person you should feel OK to discuss things like getting tested for HIV and STIs, using condoms every time, and not doing anything you don’t want to.

A lot of people can give you advice, but in the end, you are the person who owns your decisions and their consequences. This means the person you are with should be someone YOU really trust, not just someone your friends or family like. But it also means that YOU have to live with whatever happens in the relationship – so choose wisely!

For more about healthy and unhealthy relationships, check out our section on Connecting

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B-Wise User Anonymous 24 June 2019 11:35

is it possible for me to have someone that i can love and be loved back without any conditions

B-Wise Expert Expert 24 June 2019 11:53

Hi there, thank you for your question. Yes, it is possible to love someone who will love you back without any conditions. You just have to give yourself time and wait for the right person to come who will love you for who you are.

B-Wise User Anonymous 24 June 2019 10:56

Why it so hard to be in a relationship with deaf person if you hearing,why they using their deaf thing as an excuse?

B-Wise Expert Expert 24 June 2019 12:13

Hi there, thank you for your question. Communication may be a barrier between you and your partner, it is possible that your partner may not understand you. Give yourself and your partner some time to understand each other and find an easier way to communicate.

B-Wise User Anonymous 24 June 2019 10:54

Sometimes to be scared of gaing make you make wrong decision and ended up taking a wrong person because you think about getting old lonely and grumpy

B-Wise User KesaolebogaSous 3 June 2019 10:15

waiting for the right person must be a choice for everyone, you as a person know what you want and what qualities you want in that particular person. having the right person will depend on your physical and mental wellbeing â?¦ Remember your health comes first in every situation!!!

B-Wise Expert Expert 10 June 2019 07:51

You are correct! Your health comes first...

B-Wise User Godfather 1 June 2019 11:39

Finding the right person is one who will always want to see you succeed and through thick n thin times they never see you different for they love you more for your you ... Ppl remember to find the right person you first need to be yourself .... And forget the rest

B-Wise User Anonymous 15 May 2019 18:48

Let love find you

B-Wise User Mr.U Dyasopu 12 May 2019 21:49

How can you tell if someone is your soulmate ?

B-Wise Expert Expert 15 May 2019 13:58

Hi there, read this article to learn more https://bwisehealth.com/article/is-it-love-or-is-it-just-a-crush

B-Wise User oratile sebanyoni 12 May 2019 11:50

hey if that guy finds out that u are Hiv positive what will he do

B-Wise Expert Expert 12 May 2019 20:09

Hi there, thank you for your question. Every one may react differently, you can check out this article to help you get your answer  https://bwisehealth.com/article/dating-when-youre-hiv-positive 

B-Wise User slender 26 June 2017 00:31

If that guy find out that u have a baby or kids what exactly should he do?

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2018 12:07

Hi there, thank you for your question. If a guy finds out that you have a child it is important that you tell him that in the beginning of the relationship. Trust and communication is very important in any relationship. 

B-Wise User slender 25 June 2017 23:46

Thanks for your help.my God bless uð???ð??¼ð???

B-Wise Expert Expert 20 April 2018 12:07

Hi there, you are most welcome

B-Wise User tsie 13 June 2017 23:36

Hy i am mpho.I would like to ask you that if a girl is having sex before and she is going to meet the right guy. How will that guy knws that his bea is not a virgin?anymore

B-Wise Expert Expert 15 June 2017 22:47

Hi Mpho, thanks for your question. There’s no way for a guy to check if a girl is a virgin or not. Sometimes a girl’s hymen (the thin layer of skin insider her vagina) breaks when she has sex for the first time, but it can also break for other reasons, so checking if the hymen is there is not a good way to tell. If a girl feels comfortable to tell her partner if she has had sex before, she can – but it’s her choice whether or not to tell them.