Dating is a great way to find out more about a person and see if you have the same values and ideas. But not all relationships are safe and healthy and some can actually be abusive.
Abuse comes in many forms. It can be emotional, physical, verbal or sexual.
Signs that your relationship is not healthy:
- Your partner controls where you go, what you wear, or what you do.
- Your partner tries to stop you from seeing or talking to family or friends.
- Your partner calls you names, puts you down or criticizes you.
- Your partner threatens or scares you.
- Your partner hits, slaps, pushes, or kicks you.
- Your partner pressures you to have sex by saying things like ‘if you loved me you would’.
- Your partner tries to control you by checking your phone to see who you’re talking to and what you’re talking about.
If you are experiencing any of the signs above then you are in an unhealthy relationship. It could also be abusive, so it’s important to speak to someone to get help.
Unfortunately, abusive relationships are very common. But abuse can happen more easily if you are dating an older man (often called a blesser or sugar daddy) who has more money or power than you.
Go to your local clinic and speak to a healthcare provider, social worker, counsellor, or psychologist and ask for help. You can find help here.
You can also contact loveLife here:
Remember, when someone loves you, you feel safe, respected, and free to be yourself. You should never feel afraid of the person you are dating.
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